In the intricate world of the British monarchy, few events have stirred as much global intrigue and discussion as the marriage of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. While the couple’s love story captivated the world, it seems not everyone in Harry’s close circle was initially on board. A resurfaced account from Tom Bower’s 2022 book “Revenge: Meghan, Harry, and the War Between the Windsors” sheds light on the family dynamics and concerns that predated the royal wedding.
A Brother’s Warning: Charles Spencer’s Reservations
As the wedding bells were set to ring for Prince Harry and Meghan Markle in 2018, a significant voice from Harry’s family voiced his concerns. Charles Spencer, the 9th Earl Spencer and brother to the late Princess Diana, reportedly cautioned his nephew against the rapid progression of his relationship with the former Suits actress. According to Bower’s book, Spencer, who has navigated his own tumultuous personal life and recently announced his third divorce, expressed his family’s “unease” after meeting Meghan.
The caution from Spencer wasn’t just a casual remark but a serious advisement to reconsider the haste with which Harry was moving towards marriage. This moment of familial advice allegedly sparked a “bitter reaction” from Prince Harry, who felt disappointed and misunderstood by his uncle’s and the wider family’s reservations.
The Disconnection: Harry’s Disappointment
One of the most poignant elements of this story, as depicted in Bower’s book, is Harry’s deep disappointment that his family didn’t see Meghan Markle through the same adoring lens he did. Harry believed that there were striking similarities between Meghan and his late mother, Princess Diana, and expected Diana’s family to recognize and embrace those resemblances.
“Harry assumed that Diana’s family and friends would see a similarity between Diana and his fiancée,” Bower wrote. “He was disappointed.”
This lack of perceived connection and approval reportedly added to Harry’s frustrations. For him, Meghan embodied the qualities he cherished in his mother. However, the Spencer family did not agree. They reportedly viewed Meghan as incompatible with the royal family’s traditional fabric, adding another layer of complexity to an already delicate situation.
Family Dynamics: Mixed Reactions and Attendance at the Wedding
Despite the unease expressed by Charles Spencer, it’s notable that Princess Diana’s three siblings, including Lady Jane Fellowes and Lady Sarah McCorquodale, were present at Harry and Meghan’s wedding on May 19, 2018, at St. George’s Chapel, Windsor Castle. Their attendance signaled a familial support, despite earlier reservations.
Yet, the couple’s journey within the royal family was fraught with challenges. By 2020, just two years after their wedding, Harry and Meghan stepped back from their roles as working royals and relocated to California. This decision, dubbed “Megxit” by the media, marked a significant shift in their lives and their relationship with the British royal family.
A Family Bond: Continuing Connections with Diana’s Siblings
Even amidst these dramatic shifts, the bond between Prince Harry and his mother’s family seems to have endured. In a touching moment last month, Prince Harry was seen embracing his uncle, Charles Spencer, and aunt, Lady Jane Fellowes, as they arrived at St Paul’s Cathedral for a service commemorating the 10th anniversary of the Invictus Games.
A video shared by Hello! magazine captured the heartwarming scene, showing that despite past tensions and warnings, the connection between Harry and his mother’s siblings remains intact and supportive.
Looking Forward: The Sussexes and Their New Chapter
As Prince Harry and Meghan Markle continue to navigate their lives outside of the royal spotlight, these revelations from the past add depth to our understanding of their journey. The family dynamics, the cautionary advice from Charles Spencer, and the eventual steps they took to carve their own path all paint a picture of a couple determined to stay true to themselves amidst royal expectations and familial concerns.
As the Duke and Duchess of Sussex forge ahead, they carry with them not just the lessons from their royal beginnings but also the support and complexities of their extended family ties.
